Davy and his wife Jessica on Dr. Phil
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Reality TV is undoubtedly popular, but how real is it? “Real couples — real fights?” Dr. Phil asks. “TV star couples really do bicker — even when the cameras are off: from cooking, to cleaning and everything in between.”
Dr. Phil says Davy Jones, member of the popular group, The Monkees, and his wife, Jessica, argue about their differences from the moment they wake up.
Dr. Phil reminisces that he's been a fan of Davy Jones and The Monkees since junior high. The show first aired in 1966.
“I used to be a heartthrob — now I’m a coronary,” Davy says.
“People wonder about folks who are on TV,” Dr. Phil says, “because we project an image of what it’s really like at home. You guys really do bicker, right?”
Davy says when the lights are off, and curtain down, he becomes like every other 64-year-old man. “Jessie is a neat freak,” he says about his wife. He says she focuses on things around the house that, to him, are unimportant.
“He just called you a freak on national television,” Dr. Phil says.
“He did, he did,” Jessica says.
“You have a completely different point of view, though. You really like things neat and orderly,” Dr. Phil says.
“Not to the point that I’m obsessed — but I do like things neat and to look nice,” she says, as she describes picking up around the house before bed.
Davy doesn’t understand. “There are small things I’ve been used to doing all my life, and all of a sudden, I’m being reprimanded for them,” he says of his new marriage to Jessica.
The towel is another point of contention between the newly married couple, they say.
“I can’t say, ‘You have to hang the towel like this,’" Jessica says. “I’m just giving a suggestion.”
Dr. Phil says he, too, gets many suggestions in married life.
Jessica says that her husband will leave the towel soaking wet after use. The towel will ultimately not dry and start to smell. She says he'll use a different towel every day, adding to the laundry. “We can make one towel go for five days if you air dry it,” she says.
Dr. Phil says that in a recent poll, most people acknowledge that they argue most with their partner about cleaning. Other complaints include, cooking, grocery shopping and the children.
Jessica says that all in all, they don't argue much. Davy says there’s something that bothers him about her, however.
“She will wait until she gets in the car to make phone calls,” Davy complains.
Jessica says she’s forced to entertain herself because Davy won’t listen to music in the car.
“There’s music, music, music all the time!” Davy says.
“That’s good for you!” Jessica says, alluding to how Davy has made a career.
“Aren’t you in the music business?” Dr. Phil asks.
Dr. Phil asks the one thing each could change about the other.
“I don’t want to change anything about him. I love him and I fell in love with him the way he is. But,” she laughs, “I’d like for him to do things without me having to ask him to do it,” Jessica says. “And, you can’t even use reverse psychology on him. If you want him to do something, I promise you, you cannot tell him to do it — it will not get done.”
Davy admits that when Jessica tries to use psychology to get him to do things around the house, he will say, “Who do you think you are, Dr. Phil?”
"You’ve heard the old saying, 'You can’t teach an old monkey new tricks,'" Dr. Phil says jokingly Davy and Jessica both took The Big Five Personality Test. "Personality is made up of five major traits — openness, conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness and neuroticism," Dr. Phil says. "This is who you are. All the bickering in the world is not going to change these traits in your partner. You can ask for [certain] behaviors to adjust, but you’ll never get an introvert to want to party all the time, or a messy person to be a clean freak.”
Dr. Phil says Davy and Jessica are very compatible in extroversion and agreeableness. “Both of you are pretty outgoing?” Dr. Phil asks the couple.
As the couple begin to bicker over Jessica’s repeated desire for Davy to clean the windows, even going so far as to leave out the glass cleaner and towels, Dr. Phil interrupts, “He’s not going to change. One of the core personality characteristics is consciousness.” Dr. Phil tells Jessica she scored very high on consciousness. “You scored 12 out of 14,” he says. “You scored three,” he tells Davy. “It’s not good or bad, it’s just who you are.”
Davy says his father did similar things that Jessica finds annoying about him.
“That’s his father. That’s where he’s headed,” Dr. Phil says.
“That is bad!” Jessica says.
“You have to embrace differences, and then you’ll stop bickering about it,” Dr. Phil says. “He’s not going to change.”
Reality TV is undoubtedly popular, but how real is it? “Real couples — real fights?” Dr. Phil asks. “TV star couples really do bicker — even when the cameras are off: from cooking, to cleaning and everything in between.”
Dr. Phil says Davy Jones, member of the popular group, The Monkees, and his wife, Jessica, argue about their differences from the moment they wake up.
Dr. Phil reminisces that he's been a fan of Davy Jones and The Monkees since junior high. The show first aired in 1966.
“I used to be a heartthrob — now I’m a coronary,” Davy says.
“People wonder about folks who are on TV,” Dr. Phil says, “because we project an image of what it’s really like at home. You guys really do bicker, right?”
Davy says when the lights are off, and curtain down, he becomes like every other 64-year-old man. “Jessie is a neat freak,” he says about his wife. He says she focuses on things around the house that, to him, are unimportant.
“He just called you a freak on national television,” Dr. Phil says.
“He did, he did,” Jessica says.
“You have a completely different point of view, though. You really like things neat and orderly,” Dr. Phil says.
“Not to the point that I’m obsessed — but I do like things neat and to look nice,” she says, as she describes picking up around the house before bed.
Davy doesn’t understand. “There are small things I’ve been used to doing all my life, and all of a sudden, I’m being reprimanded for them,” he says of his new marriage to Jessica.
The towel is another point of contention between the newly married couple, they say.
“I can’t say, ‘You have to hang the towel like this,’" Jessica says. “I’m just giving a suggestion.”
Dr. Phil says he, too, gets many suggestions in married life.
Jessica says that her husband will leave the towel soaking wet after use. The towel will ultimately not dry and start to smell. She says he'll use a different towel every day, adding to the laundry. “We can make one towel go for five days if you air dry it,” she says.
Dr. Phil says that in a recent poll, most people acknowledge that they argue most with their partner about cleaning. Other complaints include, cooking, grocery shopping and the children.
Jessica says that all in all, they don't argue much. Davy says there’s something that bothers him about her, however.
“She will wait until she gets in the car to make phone calls,” Davy complains.
Jessica says she’s forced to entertain herself because Davy won’t listen to music in the car.
“There’s music, music, music all the time!” Davy says.
“That’s good for you!” Jessica says, alluding to how Davy has made a career.
“Aren’t you in the music business?” Dr. Phil asks.
Dr. Phil asks the one thing each could change about the other.
“I don’t want to change anything about him. I love him and I fell in love with him the way he is. But,” she laughs, “I’d like for him to do things without me having to ask him to do it,” Jessica says. “And, you can’t even use reverse psychology on him. If you want him to do something, I promise you, you cannot tell him to do it — it will not get done.”
Davy admits that when Jessica tries to use psychology to get him to do things around the house, he will say, “Who do you think you are, Dr. Phil?”
"You’ve heard the old saying, 'You can’t teach an old monkey new tricks,'" Dr. Phil says jokingly Davy and Jessica both took The Big Five Personality Test. "Personality is made up of five major traits — openness, conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness and neuroticism," Dr. Phil says. "This is who you are. All the bickering in the world is not going to change these traits in your partner. You can ask for [certain] behaviors to adjust, but you’ll never get an introvert to want to party all the time, or a messy person to be a clean freak.”
Dr. Phil says Davy and Jessica are very compatible in extroversion and agreeableness. “Both of you are pretty outgoing?” Dr. Phil asks the couple.
As the couple begin to bicker over Jessica’s repeated desire for Davy to clean the windows, even going so far as to leave out the glass cleaner and towels, Dr. Phil interrupts, “He’s not going to change. One of the core personality characteristics is consciousness.” Dr. Phil tells Jessica she scored very high on consciousness. “You scored 12 out of 14,” he says. “You scored three,” he tells Davy. “It’s not good or bad, it’s just who you are.”
Davy says his father did similar things that Jessica finds annoying about him.
“That’s his father. That’s where he’s headed,” Dr. Phil says.
“That is bad!” Jessica says.
“You have to embrace differences, and then you’ll stop bickering about it,” Dr. Phil says. “He’s not going to change.”
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